If seeking love on social media, firstly convince yourself that IT IS POSSIBLE TO FIND WHAT YOU SEEK. I mean, it’s no secret that a sizable percentage of marriages of these days culminated from social media interactions.
I also advise people to stop denigrating a possibility they are hoping or praying for, irrespective of discouraging incidents.
Destinies are different, after all. Otherwise, there is no way you are going to get something positive out of a setting you continually denigrate. We have to understand that possibilities that do not find a home in our mindset, first, aren’t likely to manifest.
Now, follow me… Learn to spread your tentacles. You can’t be a “seeker” and still be romancing your comfort zone. Join like minded forums. Cultivate a keen interest on following and contributing to intellectual discourses.
Oftentimes, you will come across kindred spirits via their reasoning. Even if they are no longer available, you could still meet someone (friend or relative) through them.
And if nothing happens, at least you will gain knowledge and (even) a “connection” from such interactions.
Bring “real” to the table. People with questionable values behave questionably on social media. Don’t be amongst the statistics that discourages respectable people from “dealing” there.
Begin from day one to keep deceit at bay. The easiest way to know “who is right for you” is by being yourself. Keep your intentions pure, because life always finds a way to honour genuine intentions. And will often reward us with our type.
Keep it honourable. Those you have heard about their “sins” are not necessarily “sinning” differently from those you have heard nothing about. Sometimes, the difference is in WHO you are dealing with.
One thing to learn HARD AND FAST on social media is the acquaintances that are worth bringing close, the ones to confine right where you met them and those not to bother touching. Everyone looks for love but look for yours in HONOURABLE places. I always say.
You don’t ever get over the regret of “touching” or dealing with the wrong person. Such experiences remain a bitter pill that never leaves the mouth. Always exercise due diligence in your social media interactions. Social media is not a place to leave your “weakness” on the driver’s seat.
It may come back to bite! Also, when you don’t make it about asking them for money and hounding them for “sexy videos and photos,” you are keeping it honourable.
Social media is the easiest place to put the cart before the horse in relationships and that’s a disaster. Please, cultivate patience with relationships. All that is worth it will happen in due time.
Relationships are so shallow these days because we do not make enough efforts to really relate with substance.
Let your values guide you. Social media isn’t a healthy place for one with weak principles. A relationship that is worth it is about ALIGNED VALUES. If it’s missing, it’s simply not there. Don’t let your biological clock or circumstances dictate otherwise to you, please.
If it’s cozy in the virtual world but lacking “real life” efforts, leave it where you found it and move on. That’s the real “social media love,” right there. It is not meant to go beyond the virtual world. But you want MORE, right?
Invest more time and efforts in real life experiences. At the end of the day, social media is NOT the real world which awaits you out there. As you seek what you seek there, don’t get so carried away by the “effortlessness” of it that you fail to “water” the REAL world. Sometimes, a bird in hand is what you are meant to hold unto, because there are no guarantees in the bush.